Happy almost Friday everyone!
First things first, I have a house keeping item. Now that I’ve got two posts under my belt, I’m going to plan for a post every Thursday. Keep an eye out 😉
As I have previously mentioned, you know, one or two times, I have been feeling unfulfilled and unsure about my career path. I had quite a few weeks where I felt like those 8 hours a day lasted an eternity, and I found myself struggling to get anything done. I started to question if I even liked my job, but then couldn’t come up with something I would like in place of it. All I could think was “I don’t like my day to day, and I feel like I’m meant to do something more than work in an office.”
One day I was really down about this, and mentioned it to one of my closest friends. She asked me if I associated my career as part of who I am. I very quickly said “No.” She went on to assure me that not everyone will love working so much it becomes their identity, and that’s okay. It’s okay to come to work because you have to, and it’s okay if you don’t go above and beyond what’s expected of you.
I have to say, as I was listening to her I felt a lot of “mhmm, mhhm, sure.” The new college graduate Dana dreamt of this kind of job. It took me a long time to find it! And I have always felt so strongly about having and keeping a well paying job to be able to support myself regardless of where I am in life. The idea of me just going through the motions for a pay check seemed contradictory to what I had always thought.
So like anything else, I spent a lot of time thinking about this conversation. The more I thought about it, the more I started to agree. I can still love being independent and making my own money, but not feel like I have to put my heart and soul into a job. I can do what is asked of me, but not feel that pressure to find all the ways to improve every process and stay late while doing it. I can feel secure in the fact that I no longer have the desire to become leadership. What makes this acceptable is the pure fact that I do not identify who I am, with the career that I hold!
Now make no mistakes, the above line comes with a caveat. The real challenge was asking myself “How do I identify, if it’s not with my job?” The honest answer is I am still working on it. But it became very clear that it was was time to start putting more effort in to what I want to do. To find what I feel will fill up my cup, instead of trying to find my happiness at work. This is going to take time, but it feels like I’m starting in the right direction.
It’s okay if you don’t love you job, or identify as a workaholic! We put so much emphasis on working long hours and loving to work in our culture, and that just shouldn’t be the focus. There is so much more to life than answering email after email, and meeting impossible deadlines. It’s okay to not love your job if you are working to find what fulfills you outside of work. Maybe you identify as a parent, a partner, or a performer. Maybe you love attending sporting event, or traveling the world. Whatever that thing is that genuinely brings you happiness should be your primary focus.
My point in all this is, don’t feel down if you don’t LOVE your job. I don’t love my job, but I don’t hate it either. All I really know is that it’s not enough for me. That I am not capable of putting my all into it because it just isn’t everything that I am or want. And that’s okay! I am determined to find and focus the things that get me excited to get out of bed everyday. If you feel this way too, know you are not alone. Start working on what YOU want out of your day, out of your life. Take small steps everyday to make it happen!
I’m interested to know what others “identify” as large parts of who they are, instead of a being a <insert job title here>. Let me know who you are!
Until next time,