It’s Been a Struggle

Transparently this is not my originally planned post for this week, but I want to keep things honest and real. I’m only human.

Many of us are really feeling the affects of quarantine, as well as stress and fear that Covid-19 brings. We are living in uncertain times, and it can become difficult to shut it all off. I am no different.

I went into this entire situation very calmly. Felt no need to panic shop, was still very much planning to attend my work trips and my big trip to Spain. I had hopes of carrying on as usual, and ultimately felt no concern about catching this virus.

However, in the last week things have really taken a turn. Everything is shut down, my normal routine is completely gone, and it’s the ONLY thing we are talking about. The reality is, what else could we talk about? Things we take for granted, and casually discuss day to day are basically gone for the foreseeable future.

On top of that, I have been working from home for about a week and half now. It really isn’t all bad. I’ve started to cultivate a new routine that I like. BUT what makes me feel anxiety, is the fact that it’s not just working from home. It’s quarantine working from home, which makes it feel somewhat like a jail.

I have gone from no concern, to a high level anxiety in a matter of days. And what’s really elevated that, is the news that a colleague of mine, who I work very close with is presumed positive for Covid-19. I haven’t been around her for 9 days, and don’t have any symptoms myself, but this news rattled me. I couldn’t calm down when I first found out. All rationality when out the window and I’ve been struggling since.

Maybe it’s the first person I know to have it so it hits close to home. Maybe it’s being quarantined in my house for days. Who knows. But my anxiety and stress is constantly on the move at this point in my life. The thought that this is what could be the norm for a while seems unacceptable to me. I don’t want to live in a constant state of anxiety, and I want normal life to resume.

But the truth, when I’m calm I know that this will pass. That this is a temporary situation, and for the greater good of our country. I know that this situation is controlling my emotions, and that I just need to make sure I am taking care of myself. It just happens to be more of a struggle than normal!

If you are feeling the same was I am, I feel for you and I hope you find ways to deal with it. But it’s also okay that we are not okay at the moment. We have never experienced something like this before. It’s a new experience that comes with all new emotions.

We WILL get through this. One day at a time!

Until next time,

What I Learned Working from Home This Week

“Working from home is the dream!”

“I want to work from home so I don’t have to leave the house, and interact with people!”

-Things I say regularly while at work

During all this Covid-19 chaos, my company made the decision to have everyone work from home for the next few weeks. When the announcement was first made, I was thrilled! I got the message at 10pm at night while I was getting ready for bed. I immediately decided I could stay up longer, and wake up late the next day. As far as I was concerned, everything I always ask for was happening!

I quickly changed my mind on everything. In fact it was only about two days in that I decided I had been wrong all along.

So I say the second day, because the first day was almost fun. I had to go to the office to get all my equipment, I met a colleague at a coffee shop to work. It just didn’t feel like a real work day. But the second day I spent entirely at home. Rolled out of bed and right on to my computer. Never left the house, and had no real contact with anyone. I started to feel stir crazy by the end of the day.

See the thing about going to the office is this. I have a morning routine before I get to the office, and I have an after work routine for when I get home. Working from home just kind of melds them all into one long action. There is nothing to break up and differentiate things in my day.

However by the end of the week things started to feel a bit better. I think my comfortability will change day by day, but I made some adjustments by the end of the week that I hadn’t originally thought to do. Here are a few things I learned!

Get Dressed– I thought staying in my pjs and working all day wold be great. Turns out, it get’s old fast. Make sure to get up and get dressed. It sets the tone that your day has begun, and you aren’t just lounging around all day.

Take a Break– It’s easy to lose track of time, and work non stop when your computer is set up in your own house. Most people find time in the day for a lunch or coffee break. Some people “ahem” find the time for breaks a little more regularly. So why shouldn’t you do the same thing while working from home? Make sure to take at least a definitive lunch break away from the computer and work.

Keep your routine– Obviously this won’t be perfect. No matter how much you try, the day is going to be different than usual. But try your best to continue the normal timeline, and activities of the day! So for me this means still going to the gym in the morning, and waking up early to read and have my coffee.

Create a Work Environment- In the past when I would work from home I would simply take my computer to the couch and sit there all day. When you are working from home for weeks, this however is not a good approach. I did of course have the luxury of being able to take my monitors home from work to help me create the ideal work station, but even if you don’t you need to find a way to make a desk for yourself. This allows your brain to differentiate the space, as well as feel more comfortable through the day. You may think sitting on the couch all day is great during a weekend, but try doing it day in and day out for weeks. Your body will be craving change.

How I Practice Self Care

The practice of self care has really taken off lately, and it’s no secret that I’m a big believer in it! I think it’s really important to put a focus on yourself regularly. We live in a society that almost praises those who wear themselves out. It’s almost like a competition of misery sometimes.

“I worked from 7am-9pm everyday this week, AND had to work on Saturday”. Sound familiar? We shouldn’t be bragging about that! We should be bragging about the moments spent living our lives, for ourselves!

I know I have talked about some of the things I do for myself, but I feel now more than ever we need to focus on ourselves. So I thought I would talk about some of my favorite activities for self care, and how often I do them!

Social Media Break

Now more than ever I am on social media consistently through the day. As the week goes on I can start to feel my anxiety level increase while on social media. I have always known it to affect me, and I often take month long cleanses from it. However, with trying to build up my blog, I obviously need to be active on my social media platforms. I wanted to make sure I had some balance, and wasn’t causing myself unnecessary stress so I deemed Sundays to be a social media free day! Even just the one day helps a great deal! It’s like a reset on my mental wellness each week.

Saturday Routine

My Saturday routine is quickly becoming a favorite of mine. It’s also becoming more involved each week, and spans from the morning into late afternoon! I start each Saturday by going to the gym. Once class is over I head home for a nice big cup of coffee and some post workout recovery movement. From here I move onto a long hot shower. The kind of shower that all girls love to have, but just don’t have the time for. The extensive routine with the shaving, extra exfoliants, all the best products, and the ability to just hang in there and enjoy the warmth!

Next comes all the after shower care. This is where I tackle derma-planing, that is followed up with toner, brightening serum, under eye moisturizer, my favorite hyaluronic acid moisturizer, and rose water. I will lounge around in my robe, hair in a towel, and enjoy this time to myself.

After I’ve thourhoughly pampered myself, I head out to my favorite coffee shop for a drink, and a delicious avocado toast.

The Gym

Not only is going to the gym good for the body, it’s also good for the brain. It’s a place to release stress and let go of any consuming thoughts. My focus is elsewhere, even if it’s just for an hour. On top of that, there is a social aspect to it. My gym in particular is boot camp style. So the people there all see each other everyday, and often have the opportunity to be partners for the workouts. This causes the gym to have a sense of community, and it’s easy to make friends!

My goal each week, is to make it into at least 4 classes. I always go before work so that it’s out of the way, and I start my day with something good for me!

Reading

A good book is one of my favorite things to do for myself. I LOVE to cuddle up on the couch with my big blanket, a candle and a great book. This is another example of something that will take your mind off things. Books can be a great escape, as well as calming. I love to start my day by getting up early to read. (Of course this is on mornings I don’t go to the gym.) It’s a nice calming way to wake up, instead of frantically running around to get out the door. I also like to end my night this way if I can. Depending on how tired I am, it doesn’t always happen, but I do try!

I have found reading at night sometimes is a necessity though. If I am feeling particularly anxious, I will immediately reach for a book. A half hour of reading will set me down the right path, and make it easier to fall asleep!

Driving to Nowhere

Every now and then I just love a good drive with no destination in mind. Ideally on a nice sunny day, that offers me the option to roll those windows down! I love blasting music, singing along, and enjoying the moment. Something about this activity fills me with such joy!

Nostalgia for Simpler Times

Sometimes I really have a hard time understanding how I became such an adult. I swear it was like I woke up one day and had all these responsibilities, and life wasn’t so happy-go-lucky anymore. Where have all my years gone?!

One of the hardest things to do sometimes is come to terms with the fact that this is life now. That someone who owns things, has a career, has people relying on her, can’t just go back to the days without responsibility. It’s literally not possible. Life will continue to move forward, and you have to do the same to progress.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to go backwards! But there are certainly days where I miss driving around with my friends blasting music, and my biggest worry was what my Friday plans were. You don’t realize what you’ve got, while you’ve got it. They always say “youth is wasted on the youth”, and I know I’m making myself sound old, but damn it’s just true! If I really knew how quickly everything changes, I can’t help but feel I would have done things differently.

These feelings are probably brought on by the fact that I am FAST approaching my 30th year of life. And though I actually am excited for this new chapter in my life, I still feel like time has moved too fast, and I would love to have some of my past moments back.

I would love to stay out all night for beat the clock drinks down by the beach, but I know I’ll be recovering from that for days. Yes days! There are nights where I simply stay up too late, and I feel like I’m nursing a hangover. Not to mention, the things I enjoy have changed. I know I’ve mentioned this a FEW times, but I used to absolutely hate being in on a Friday night. Now I want nothing more than to come home from work, get into comfy clothes, and snuggle up on the couch.

Things change man, and you don’t even see it coming! I have become so many things I said I would never be, and it is what it is! So if there is ANY advice I can give to someone young it’s to take advantage of every opportunity, every night out, every experience, because before you know it your life becomes unrecognizable. #SuchACliche

Until next time,

Negative Body Image Recovery

Coming out of National Eating Disorder week I wanted to follow up with some actual tactics for battling a negative body image. In most cases this negativity about the body we live in is what spirals us into an actual eating disorder. As someone who dealt with a negative body image, and an eating disorder that followed, I feel it’s my responsibility to share how I was able to pull myself out of it for anyone who may need. This is an experience that is so real, and so not worth the mental and physical anguish it brings. I want to help anyone who is suffering from disordered eating, or negative body image as best I can!

Below are 5 steps you can start implementing to battle that negativity you are feeling toward your body.

Journaling

I know this is one I ALWAYS mention, but it really works! You definitely have to figure out what works best for you as far as what you choose to focus your writing on for it to help though. I have always gone in the direction of gratitude, and my daily feelings.

For example, I would write about how I felt in the morning just after waking up. This gave me the ability to figure out my emotions before I made it to the mirror to make a judgement on myself. From there I would list out things that are more important in my life than what I weighed, or that extra pudge I thought I had. I would finish out the day with one good thing that happened to me. All of this was to put my whole life into perspective, and see myself for more than just an imperfect body.

Morning Mantra

I’m not gonna lie, this seemed silly to me at first. So if you feel the same, I understand, but hear me out! If you create a mantra that has a positive message, and you repeat it to yourself first thing in the morning, you are starting your whole day off positively. I always found that a negative head space would easily set me off down a path of negative body image. So the mantra would combat that because it would be the first thing I would think in the morning. And the thing about the mantra is, if you are consistent and repeat this to yourself in times of need, over time you will start to believe it and it will honestly change your attitude. So try something like “My body does not determine my worth.”, or “I am beautiful regardless of my weight.”

Avoiding the Mirror

Self explanatory! If you are someone who checks their body when walking past a mirror, or a window, STOP. It will not be easy at first, I still do it more than I’d like to admit. But if you know that seeing your body can be a trigger, don’t look at it. Force yourself to keep looking forward. Change your behavior of “checking” you body first thing in the morning, to doing something else first. Get out of that habit of constantly looking to see what your body looks like.

Unfollow Trigger Accounts

I would like to say that the best thing to do, is to first take a social media break. Whether that’s a day, or a couple weeks, this REALLY helps. However I do understand some people are not going to be willing. So my next suggestion is to unfollow any account that makes you compare your body to theirs. Any accounts that leave you feeling anxious, unmotivated, or in a negative headspace. There is no reason to further your disordered eating mentality by visiting a platform that is meant to be fun! Simply unfollow!

Positive Self Talk

This is a big one! The things you tell yourself all day are going to play a huge factor in what you believe. If you are constantly telling yourself you aren’t good enough because of your weight, or how your body looks, you are going to believe it. However if you start talking to yourself in a forgiving manner, and say positive things about yourself, you will believe that instead! It’s going to take practice and time, but if you are consistent this is one of the biggest tools you have at combating your negative body image.

Examples of this include forgiving yourself when you’ve eaten a little too much dessert. Finding and reminding yourself of things about yourself you do like. Telling yourself how beautiful you look each day. Anything that’s going to life you up, versus bring you mental state down.

If you are consistent, and use these tactics in conjunction with each other, you will learn not to associate your self worth with your weight. These things will help put this fear you have into perspective, and make you feel stronger in who you are outside of the number on a scale. It will take time. I have a journal with a page for each day that spans an entire year. It takes WORK. You will have days where you won’t want to, or these things won’t make you feel better. Stick with it. It’s well worth the effort, and the time!

Until next time,

Weekend Recap: Exceeds Expectations

So this is going to be more of a recap of my week, than a weekend recap. I just feel this needed a follow up!

Remember weeks ago when I made a whole post on how I’m an exceeds expectations kind of girl, and that it’s okay to not want to go above and beyond at your job? Well a funny thing happened to me this week. I had my end of year review, and exceeded expectations, in multiple areas!

Is it a surprise to you? Because it was truly a surprise to me. But that’s the funny thing about life. Sometime you just don’t see the things the way other people do. Maybe that’s why my company handles these reviews the way that they do! Either way, this was a surprising turn of events that renewed some of my energy towards my job.

I’ll give a little insight into my review for those who may be curious! I rated myself across the board as “meets expectations”. This meant that all my objectives for the year were “met”, and all of are core competencies were met in my eyes. In the last year I couldn’t really pinpoint a moment, or period of time that I went above in beyond in my position. And if we are being really honest I sometimes feel like I take a lot of liberties when it comes to a day at work.

My manager had a different view of the year. To her the work I had done on my event series was above and beyond. That the restructuring of the agenda, and more efficient ways of reporting were all signs of someone going the extra mile. She also had me exceeding expectations in customer commitment, and being transparent. My most favorite area of exceeding was in adapting. To me, every time I had to come to her this year with an issue an event faced was a ding in the “things are going wrong under Dana’s watch” column. To her, the way I handled things by approaching with options to find an immediate fix was exceeding because she never actually had to step in and help.

My take away from this review, and whole year is that maybe I am just too hard on myself. Or that I see things I’ve done as just part of the job versus “extra”. It’s amazing how a different perspective can change your view on something. I walked away from this review thinking “I can do this! I do a great job at work, and I have made a lot of improvements to the events I run”. I was too busy focusing on the things that happened that maybe were less than ideal!

I want to be clear that I still feel my original post about not loving your job, or identifying yourself with your career is still completely valid. I still stand behind it, and feel that way. I just found it so interesting to see how that’s not how I actually come across. Leaves me really questioning what I can accomplish if I put in the effort that I seem to think is necessary.

Watch out, I’ve got plans to get promoted come mid year! :p

Until next time,

National Eating Disorder Week: Binge Eating

Binge Eating Disorder is 3 times more likely than anorexia and bulimia combined. An estimated 2.8 million people have BED. Most commonly women in their early 20’s, and men during midlife. Binge Eating Disorder is the most common eating disorder, however only recently was it acknowledged as one.

Since starting this blog, I have made it a goal for myself to always be honest, and open even if it can be a very personal topic. I want anyone who reads my blog to know that the crazy things they think, issues they experience, or emotions they feel happen to others as well. That everyone has their own struggles, and no one is immune. I want anyone who reads my blog to find something they can relate to.

Which leads me here, to one of the most personal experiences I could share. My experience with an eating disorder, specifically Binge Eating Disorder.

If you’ve never heard of Binge Eating Disorder (BED), my best explanation would be when someone eats a very large amount of food in one sitting. This usually leads to a huge amount of discomfort, as well as guilt. A binge episode is usually followed by restricting to “make up” for the large amount of food consumed.

At first I didn’t realize I was doing anything wrong. I had simply started a diet after graduating college. I felt it was time to get it together and eat a nutritious diet. Which I did very well for a long time, but I eventually started to become obsessed. I would watch EVERYTHING that I would eat, making sure there was no seasoning on my food, eating only the “cleanest” foods, and avoiding going out to eat. I was following a strict gym routine, and I would do body checks any chance I had. My journey to health had essentially become unhealthy.

The binging started small, which would be comparable to maybe eating a little too much at a meal. But eventually I was eating full jars of peanut butter in one sitting. The best memory I have to really make it clear just how much food I could consume in a short period of time, is the night I ate a full pint of ice cream, then proceeded to go out with my friends. So I followed up my pint of ice cream with appetizers, half a pizza, and multiple cannolis.

Let’s really think about it. How would you feel after just the entire pint of ice cream? Pretty full right? Now imagine eating a three course meal directly after a pint of ice cream. It made me feel like I was going to literally explode. The amount of pain and discomfort I felt was unexplainable. But time and time again I would put myself through this.

The main point I want to get across was that these moments weren’t really conscious. I often felt like it was an out of body experience. Realistically I knew what I was doing, and I knew the pain it was going to cause me but I COULD NOT control myself. And the worst part was that this was a cycle. I would wake up the next day, vow to eat better, ultimately restrict myself and barely eat, and then lose control all over again. It was a cycle I couldn’t break for more than 2 weeks at a time.

I never would allow myself to purge after I would finish a binge. I always felt that if I forced up what I had just eaten, then I definitely had an eating disorder. I needed to see one of the signs that we so often hear about in association with an eating disorder. Well I ate, a lot, so that seemed fine. And I never forced myself to throw up. So yeah… I must be fine! But, I wasn’t. And it wasn’t until I stumbled upon the term binge eating one day that I realized this isn’t “fine.”

From there everything improved. Over time of course! But I found myself a therapist who specialized in this kind of behavior. We worked together for almost two years before we both agreed I had really removed myself from this behavior. We tried many things including journaling, gratitude practice, mantras, and self awareness tactics. I was determined to kick this behavior, and I feel the combination of everything and my determination really worked well together.

It wasn’t easy, and I still struggle in some ways. Not with the binging, but with my opinion of my body. This is something I am always working to make sure I keep in check. But I can say that I found the help I needed and never looked back.


The last thing I want to note is that these things can be hard to pick out. Those two photos are 4 years apart. The one on the left while I was in the thick of my BED, and the one on the right is me now. Not much difference, and there’s nothing about my body physically that would raise concern to anyone. These things affect SO many people. Look for different signs. Do your research and be supportive of those who need you.

Until next time,


*All stats cited in the post are from healthline.com

Weekend Recap: Jersey Girl Vibes

It seems my weekends have two repeatable themes. Do nothing but sit on the couch all day and night, or find myself at a concert. This weekend I managed to do both pretty flawlessly.

Saturday morning was ME time. Particularly in the self care fashion. I did my extensive facial care routine, lounged around in my robe, and listened to music with my coffee. This has become a weekend routine, and I absolutely feel everyone should put a version of this into practice!

I then proceeded to meet a friend for coffee and some blogging advice. When she’s up and running, I will absolutely share her info! 🙂

My night however was the highlight. Honestly, I was really debating if I actually wanted to go out. Scott’s aunt and cousin have nothing but rave reviews for this band, but part of me really just wanted to sit in, maybe watch some fights, and cuddle up with Scott. BUT I talked myself into going because I love new music, and we know I’m working on saying yes to things I once loved!

The show was at the Stone Pony in Asbury Park. I like to think everyone knows about the Stone Pony, but it may just be a Jersey thing. (Though I know my rock n roll fans out there know it well!) But anyway, if you don’t know, it’s a legendary venue on the Jersey Shore home to the artists like Bruce Springsteen and Jon Bon Jovi. It’s located right on the boardwalk in Asbury Park, and it’s been there since 1973. I have seen countless bands perform here, and I have even taken the stage a few times!

So as I mentioned earlier I met up with Scott’s aunt and cousin, who when attending any concert prefer to be right at the front of the action. This is not quite my style, but I worked my way up to meet them. They introduced me to all their friends who very quickly welcomed me into the gang! The music was great, we danced all night, and had a ton of laughs. I walked away from this night with a new artist to listen to, and really happy I decided to go out!

Which leads me to Sunday! At this point in my life, staying out past 12am requires recovery the next day, drinks or no drinks. So I woke up early with Scott like I normally do, but proceeded to go right back to sleep until about 11:30 once he left. From there it was simply a move from the bed to the couch kind of day. I watched my favorite show, and we finished off the day with some Chinese food on the couch together.

I love days like this! I love the coziness of the couch, my big blankets and being alone able to just exist. I always feel like this is the best way to prepare for the week ahead.

So what were your weekend plans? Anything new and exciting, or are you a couch potato like me?

Until next time,

Having the Right Support System

When I decided to dive into the blogging world, naturally I shared my idea with Scott. The whole social media universe isn’t something he really understands or puts much thought into. I was a little hesitant and almost embarrassed to tell him about it. However, every time I asked for his opinion he gave it. And in many cases had great ideas!

Recently I sent him a text (after he liked yet another post on my brand new struggling instagram page) that said “Thank you for supporting my newest endeavor”. He simply said “Why wouldn’t I?”

And why wouldn’t he is right. Of course he supports my hopes and dreams! I just sometimes tend to think if he won’t fully understand something I want, then he won’t know how to support me, or care much to help.

The thing about Scott it, he ALWAYS surprises me. It’s one of the things I truly love about him. He is always there for me, and there isn’t much more I can ask for.

Now I’m not here to write a mushy why I love my person post, but to tell you how important it is to have a support system in life. We all need someone in our corner to cheer us on, support our endeavors and be there when things get difficult. Sometimes you may even just need a different perspective, someone to put you in your place, so to speak.

They always say, surround yourself with people who lift you up, not those who are going to weigh you down. As I’m getting older I have started to see how important this is for your wellbeing. As you start to make big life decisions you want people in your corner cheering you on, or helping you figure out what is best for you. You want the people who will say ” That’s a great idea! How can I help?!” or “I love this plan, but I think you need to change xyz to make it even better!”.

As humans we crave camaraderie, but sometimes we don’t choose the best friends people. We don’t always see the negativity someone can cause us right away. So I wanted to share two major signs someone may not have your best interest at heart.

Constantly Telling You Your Ideas Won’t Work

Think about how excited you get when you start a new endeavor, or finally make a move on a goal you have been dreaming about. If the first person you go to for support, or encouragement tells you your idea won’t work, or that it’s too difficult to accomplish, how are you going to feel? It tends to bring you down a notch, and you start to doubt if your idea is really that great. If this person is really important to you, think about what kind of harm their negative opinions could do to you. You could start to second guess your idea, drag your feet on this new project, or not follow through at all.

But if you think about it, shouldn’t the person you tell all your hopes and dreams to, want to see you succeed? If someone really cared about your wellbeing, they would support your grandiose plans. They may not agree with everything, but if they offer up constructive criticism, or some advice, they are still showing their support for you.

Not There For You in Times of Need

Part of having a support system is having people to rely on. You don’t need to have a ton of people backing you, just a few people you can really count on when you need them.

Let’s face it. Life can be rough. It can kick ya when your down, and it can really take a toll. We all want to be strong enough to handle things on our own, but sometimes we just aren’t. Having people support you sometimes means, literally supporting you. Having people willing to help you get out of a jam, listen to your problems for hours, or drop everything they are doing when you are having a meltdown is so important. If the most important people in your life, don’t make you the number one priority at times, it may be time to reconsider those relationships!

Of course not everything is going to be sunshine and roses, but overall you want your interactions with your close people to be positive and productive. You should feel energized and ready to tackle the days head, not doubting yourself and your goals! Try to find those people who are going to really be there for you, in good and bad times. Find people who are going to encourage your ideas and growth, not try to knock you down.

And if you don’t have the right support yet, its okay to distance yourself from those who are putting you down, or causing stress and anxiety. Feel empowered to take time for you, or even tell them that you aren’t feeling support or positivity. If you are important to them, they will find a way. Don’t waste your precious time on those who do not wish you the best in life!

Remember, you don’t need a lot of people, you just need the right people! Do you have a support system you can count on?

Until next time,

Weekend Recap: Quality Time

I don’t know if I have gotten this point across yet, BUT I do enjoy my alone time. Specifically posted up on the couch, under a blanket, with snacks and watching How I Met Your Mother. I love to be lazy, and I can do it for far too long. Part of the reason for this is that my work schedule doesn’t match up with Scott’s. He works on weekends, and I don’t. It’s SUPER easy for me to fall into complete laziness all day.

This weekend however was quite busy for once, and I enjoyed that too!

Saturday: Scott and I had a date night at one of our favorite restaurants Enotecca Maria. It’s this tiny restaurant on Staten Island that has guest chefs each weekend. The fun part is that the guest chef’s are grandmas from different parts of the world. HOW CUTE RIGHT?! So we went over the weekend because there was Brazilian grandma cooking, and we definitely wanted to try that. Food was delicious as always, though we didn’t get to try everything because we went for the last seating and things had run out by then. 😦 They did give us a cannoli on the house though, which I honestly thought was so sweet! AND I love cannolis so I will never turn that away!

Quality time spent with Scott is always my favorite! We certainly have to pencil time in for it with our schedules, but I think we do a great job of being intentional with our time together. I wouldn’t have it any other way, and I appreciate him for it!

Sunday: Well aware that it’s now February, but we celebrated the December holidays with Scott’s dad and family! Family gatherings with that side of Scott’s family always wind up as a day full of games, and yesterday was hysterical. We played games that had me sitting at the table with a plastic bag on my head, and Scott using words he made up in sentences. We played games that had us drawing the most INAPPROPRIATE things you could think of drawing with family, and laughing so hard we couldn’t breathe. We spent the whole day together, from morning until night. Eating, laughing and spending quality time with the little ones.

I think intentional time spent with anyone is so important. We may not see the whole family like that, but I think that fact that when we do its an all day affair, AND we actually spend time with each other, not on our phones, makes up for it!

You may think that simply being in the same room with someone, or at the same dinner table is enough. But it’s not! Make sure to really enjoy your time with the people you choose to hang out with. Put the phones/ tablets down, and learn something new about each other. Laugh together, grow together. You will better your relationship, and yourself by doing so!

So what did you do this weekend?

Until next time,

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